As you evaluate your progress over the past year, one thing to keep in mind about perfectionism is that it often confuses success with failure. It basically recognizes just one kind of success: the kind where you: (a) finish a monumental project, (b) do a spectacular job at it, and (c) win abundant praise and material rewards for it. Everything else is either (at best) not worth noting, or (at worst) a heinous failure.
However, there are many more types of success than that, including:
When you start a new project
When you … [Read More...]
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Lots of writers struggle with their weight, but has it ever occurred to you that weight gain has a lot in common with that other common writer's malady, writer's block?
It does! They're both examples of chronic procrastination, and as such can be resolved using the same techniques and tools. Longtime SavvyAuthors favorite Hillary Rettig, a master at helping people get … [Read More...]
...and to cancel those preapprovals no longer needed. I just found that I've been paying $10/month to elance.com. Unlike more honest, forthright companies, they don't send account statements, so it's easy to forget you've subscribed and are paying. I haven't used elance probably in a year, so this was wasted money. … [Read More...]
The Times's Joyce Wadler recounts how the high cost of Viagra and other "performance enhancing" drugs is putting her under pressure to be better at sex.
"I’m a sexually confident woman, but the cost of these pills was giving me performance anxiety. I knew it was supposed to be about love and connection, but when sex pills came on the scene I started to wonder if “Was it good for you?” was going to be replaced by, “Was it worth the 35 bucks?”
Situational perfectionism is wen something causes your perfectionism to spike. Read more … [Read More...]
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Everyone's obsessed with quality, but the way to achieve it is not to focus on it. That's because:
1) Quality is an Emergent Property
An emergent property is one that's intrinsic to a system, and that arises organically as that system operates. Think of relationships: if you try to force them, they wither and die. The best relationships are not forced, but arise naturally as the yield of many interactions.
Quality in writing and other work similarly occurs organically via an effective process, through your numerous interactions … [Read More...]
Woke up to find it's raining again, for the upteenth time this fall.
At first, I had my normal reaction, "Aw, crap."
But this time I quickly corrected myself, "All right! More mushrooms!"
Michigan is apparently great for mushrooms. Maybe today, Monday, I will make manifest a marvelous Michigan morel. … [Read More...]
Recently, someone mentioned she was waiting to clear “a big chunk of time” before starting a project.
Other things people wait for are:
The kids to be in school (or out of the house entirely).
A better work space (either at home or elsewhere).
”To do more research.”
While there is often some logic to waiting, it's usually better just to get started. For one thing, the impulse to wait is usually partly a response to perfectionist fears of failure, success, and showing the work. (And, often, no … [Read More...]
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