The idea that grandiosity fuels perfectionism always shocks perfectionists, who think their problem is low self-esteem. But it’s grandiosity that causes the shame and low-self esteem by constantly setting goals and conditions the writer can’t possibly live up to.
You’d think that having people ask questions about what you do wouldn’t be such a big deal. But in a world where most people don’t have a clue what writing is about, a writer is always going to be on the defensive. Here’s how to cope.
“To accuse others of one’s own misfortune is a sign of want of education. To accuse oneself shows that one’s education has begun. To…
Here’s the draft cover for my new book, The Seven Secrets of the Prolific: The Definitive Guide to Overcoming Procrastination, Perfectionism and…
I’m very pleased to announce that the entire text to my book The Lifelong Activist: How to Change the World Without Losing Your Way (Lantern Books,…
Or, more specifically: sex. I mainly write on procrastination and perfectionism in one’s work, but the same principles apply in other parts of our…
How much does it hurt when parents or others unfairly label us? An acquaintance recently told about how, after her 13-year-old daughter broke her wrist playing sports, her Dad, who had taken her to the hospital, responded to her expressions of pain by telling her, “Don’t be a wimp.” Later, when Mom showed up, the daughter’s first words were not about her painful injury, but an outraged and accusatory: “He called me a wimp!”
There are plenty of selfish, exploitative people in the world – no doubt. But most of the people I encounter in my workshops and coaching have the opposite problem – they’re overgivers, perennially sacrificing their needs and missions to others’. That’s a much nobler problem, but still a problem.
this guy sounds pretty emo about his commute, but I actually agree with him 100%. commuting is dreadful and cars are the most overrated appliance. The less I drive, the less I want to drive.
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