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RIP Billy Dawg 2003? – 2019

We lost our cherished Billy Dawg last week. He died at home, surrounded by love. Here is a picture his dogsitter sent us. She captioned it: "Here he is motivating me to complete my senior project!" (Like mom, like pup!) Billy was (we think) at least sixteen years old with some of the usual senior dog issues, but when the end came, it was pretty sudden and unexpected. He deteriorated *very* rapidly over his last three days, and the whole experience was, as you can imagine, intense and mostly awful. But there was one incredible moment: Contrary to the above image of Billy adoring his dogsitter, he generally didn't shower you with affection. He kept a bit of distance, played it a bit cool. But on Saturday night, in the midst of a terrible weekend during which he was mostly "out of it," he suddenly pulled himself together, got very focused, and gave my partner (the true center of his universe) a look of the purest, most intense, and most melting love. It was as if Billy knew his time were … [Read more...]

Furball Friday: Billy’s Studio Shots

So, we hired a professional photographer to capture Billy in all his furball glory. I've hired a pro for my business, but never personally. The things we do for our dogs! It was a bit of a splurge - $250 for everything including some prints - but worth every dime. Not only are the pictures amazing, but it was amazing watching her work. She held a can of dog food in front of Billy and let him lick it every once in a while. It was pure intermittent reinforcement like slot machines do, and it drove him into a frenzy. He had to pose at different angles to get his licks in, and she just snapped him a zillion times while he was posing. Below are some of the shots. Thank you Susan Sabo of Fresh Simple True (who also does a lot of pro bono work to help shelter dogs get adopted) for the amazing work! First, Billy captured in all his awesome adorableness!                   In this shot, he NOSE what's going … [Read more...]

By Popular Demand: Billy on Parquet

He's not so easy to photograph as he's a wiggler. Also, he's not the most facially expressive of dogs--it's all in the eyes and body language. But here's a pic. Oh, and we've had him two months and 0 "accidents" in the house. OLD DOGS RULE. … [Read more...]

Dogs Don’t Like Perfectionism Either!

This piece by Nancy Tanner on how impatience ruins dog training is brilliant: When I am asked what is the biggest problem I see in dog training today, it is the same problem I saw fourteen years ago, and thirty years ago, it is the misunderstanding of time. It takes time to learn how to be a teacher to another species. It takes time to learn how to learn from another species. It takes time to build understanding. It takes time to learn how to observe and how to apply what you observe. It takes time to build a relationship with trust. It's not just dog training! Ask teachers of any craft or skill what their #1 challenge is with students, and the answer will inevitably be, "getting them to slow down." While (speaking generally) you want to do your work at a steady clip and not get bogged down on any one detail, you also don't want to rush through the important details--and they can take way longer to get right than many of us think (or want). Even now, after decades of serious writing, I'm … [Read more...]

Sobre Hillary

La idea central de mi obra es que la procrastinación, los bloqueos y otras formas de baja productividad son síntomas de desempoderamiento. "Desempoderamiento" quiere decir que a usted no le falta nada para ser productivo, simplemente se ha alejado o ha perdido el acceso a lo que ya posee: puntos de fuerza, habilidades, capacidades y energía (la holgazanería, la falta de disciplina, la falta de compromiso y otras supuestas deficiencias son síntomas de desempoderamiento, no las causas, así que le ruego que no se concentre en estos aspectos y que no los use para poner etiquetas negativas, ni a usted mismo ni a los demás). Dedico toda mi actividad profesional a ayudar a las personas a detectar y superar las fuerzas de desempoderamiento que minan su trabajo y sus vidas, para que puedan recuperar el placer de la productividad. Otra contribución importante de mi obra es la descripción del perfeccionismo como un fenómeno complejo que (hasta hoy) consiste en dieciocho síntomas, entre ellos: la grandiosidad, la … [Read more...]

Live From Kalamazoo: A New Shot at Love

A little over a year ago, I was invited to write a letter to a newborn baby, Toby. In it, I wrote about the benefits of being generous, and in particular generous in love: “I’ve also given away lots of love. Often that love was returned, but sometimes it wasn’t, which was painful. But as Billy Joel sings in The Longest Time, 'I have been a fool for lesser things.' I believe it is always worth taking a chance for love.”* I remember hesitating after writing that: would I come across as pathetic or needy? Was the Billy Joel reference too common? (Maybe I should have quoted someone more "intellectually impressive"?) But I went with it, and was glad I did. Honesty and boldness are their own rewards, since they help you overcome shame and feel more secure in your own skin. And I did get a couple of emails from people who said my email inspired them to take some risks in love. Here's the incredible thing, though... Not two weeks after writing that letter, in the kind of coincidence you would scorn if you saw … [Read more...]

Writer’s Block: Erykah Badu Gets It Right

Singer Erikah Badu's fantastic advice re writer's block: "Don't worry. When U have NO content to express the emotion U are feeling. It's not writer's block. It's just downloading time." ht Sheldon Levine, Sysomos Here's another singer who gets it. … [Read more...]

About Hillary

My Skills The core of my work is the idea that procrastination, blocks, and other forms of underproductivity are symptoms of disempowerment. Disempowerment means you're not missing anything you need to be productive: you're just separated from, or have lost access to, that which you have--i.e., your strengths, skills, talents and energy. (Laziness, lack of discipline, lack of commitment, and other supposed deficiencies are all symptoms of the disempowerment, not causes, so please don't focus on them.) All my work is devoted to helping people locate and remedy the disempowering forces in their work and life so that they can reclaim their joyful productivity. My other major contribution has been to characterize perfectionism as a complex phenomenon consisting of (to date) eighteen symptoms, some of which are listed here. Finally, I've been able to design solutions to both procrastination and perfectionism that are uniquely targeted and effective. Please visit the Coaching and Workshops sections of this … [Read more...]

About

My Skills The core of my work is the idea that procrastination, blocks, and other forms of underproductivity are symptoms of disempowerment. Disempowerment means you're not missing anything you need to be productive: you're just separated from, or have lost access to, that which you have--i.e., your strengths, skills, talents and energy. (Laziness, lack of discipline, lack of commitment, and other supposed deficiencies are all symptoms of the disempowerment, not causes, so please don't focus on them.) All my work is devoted to helping people locate and remedy the disempowering forces in their work and life so that they can reclaim their joyful productivity. My other major contribution has been to characterize perfectionism as a complex phenomenon consisting of (to date) eighteen symptoms, some of which are listed here. Finally, I've been able to design solutions to both procrastination and perfectionism that are uniquely targeted and effective. Please visit the Coaching and Workshops sections of this … [Read more...]

In Which I Advise a Young Baby

My friend, free software activist, Ciaran McHale and his wife, Bianca, recently had a baby--the gorgeous Toby. And they did something  completely cool, which was to ask friends concerned with social justice to write letters to Toby, which they would publish in a book. The book Letters to Toby is out, and you can read it here. It's full of inspiration and insight, so check it out! By the way, Ciaran compiled it using his program, Canthology, which anyone interested in producing anthologies should check out. Below is my letter to Toby, which I hope you enjoy. Dear Toby, Greetings from Boston, MA, and welcome to the world! Your parents have asked me to write a letter to you on the momentous occasion ofyour birth. I don’t know your father very well, but he is a very special person to me. After my first book, The Lifelong Activist, was published, he wrote to me saying that he liked it and also included a detailed list of grammatical and other errors he had spotted to help me with my second … [Read more...]

In Which I Advise a Young Baby

My friend, free software activist, Ciaran McHale and his wife, Bianca, recently had a baby--the gorgeous Toby. And they did something  completely cool, which was to ask friends concerned with social justice to write letters to Toby, which they would publish in a book. The book Letters to Toby is out, and you can read it here. It's full of inspiration and insight, so check it out! By the way, Ciaran compiled it using his program, Canthology, which anyone interested in producing anthologies should check out. Below is my letter to Toby, which I hope you enjoy. Hillary Dear Toby, Greetings from Boston, MA, and welcome to the world! Your parents have asked me to write a letter to you on the momentous occasion of your birth. I don’t know your father very well, but he is a very special person to me. After my first book, The Lifelong Activist, was published, he wrote to me saying that he liked it and also included a detailed list of grammatical and other errors he had spotted to help me with my … [Read more...]

New Year’s Resolution: Do Less Housework!

Most people think of procrastination as a simple bad habit, but it's often much more than that: it's a strategy we employ when we're afraid of the outcome of an activity or project. So, someone who hates his job might procrastinate on looking for a new one because he's afraid of not getting any offers, or landing one that's even worse than his current one. A novelist with writer's block (blocks being an extreme form of procrastination) may be afraid of not selling her book, getting a bad review, or offending relatives or others with what she's written. Someone whose lifelong dream has been to start a business may procrastinate on doing so because he's afraid of failing - or succeeding and having many new responsibilities and demands placed on him. In the short term, procrastination works well: by not finishing (or starting!) your project, you are indeed protected from its scary potential outcome(s). In the long term, however, procrastination can lead to a bitter, unfulfilled life. So it's a good idea … [Read more...]

Friday Fun: Hell's iPod and Fugly Plants

I've been saving these up for just the right Friday: Hell's iPodA collection of entertainingly awful music videos, most of which seem to date from my youth (and, hence, don't sound all that awful to me). The classics are all in here: Muskrat Love, Billy Don't be a Hero, Honey, You Light Up My Life, etc. Lots more earwigs linked to in the comments. And a photo gallery of eight of the world's fugliest plants Enjoy! … [Read more...]