They don't do their work, don't show up for help, and settle for memorizing facts instead of working to truly understand the material. Unlike many teachers, however, he knows better than to label his students as lazy and unmotivated—in part because he once walked in their shoes.
In an essay of compelling honesty and empathy, he writes about how he himself once struggled during a class on topology (the funky science of shapes and spaces), and took refuge in the very same procrastinating behaviors he sees in students.
1) How Blindsiding Makes Things Worse
Orlin: “Thanks to a childhood of absurd privilege, I entered college well-prepared. As a sophomore in the weed-out class for Yale math majors, I earned the high score on the final exam. After that, it seemed plausible to me that I’d never fail at anything mathematical.”
When Orlin did start failing, therefore, he was caught off guard--and, in common with many smart young people, had no idea how to deal with it. So, he resorted to the kinds of avoidance behaviors mentioned above.
When we're blindsided, our defenses are down, so any loss or struggle is extra shocking. Having too-high expectations for success is a classic prelude to blindsiding so it's important to moderate your expectations even in situations, such as Orlin's, where it would seem reasonable to expect a strong success. (Beware statements like: "I'm definitely going to ace this project because...")
2) How Denial, Anger, and Blame Distract Us From the Real Problem
Orlin: "I blamed others for my ordeal. Why had my girlfriend tricked me into taking this nightmare class? (She hadn’t.) Why did the professor just lurk in the back of the classroom, cackling at our incompetence, instead of teaching us? (He wasn’t cackling. Lurking, maybe, but not cackling.) Why did it need to be stupid topology, instead of something fun? (Topology is beautiful, the mathematics of lava lamps and pottery wheels.) And, when other excuses failed, that final line of defense: I hate this class! I hate topology!"
Actually, many of the people I work with overblame themselves—a classic example being a student who blames herself for poor grades caused by bad teaching, personal troubles, or other factors. Or, an employee blaming himself for a failure that was really caused by inept supervision and a chaotic workplace.
Either way, however, the denial, anger, and blame are distractions from what should be your main task in the face of a barrier: problem-solving.
3) How Perfectionism Raises the Stakes on your Project to Self-Defeating Levels
I call that "The Ahab Syndrome," and Orlin helpfully illustrates it with this picture of "Moby-us-Dick:"
(A Mobius strip is a common topological device.)
4) How Shame is the Real Barrier to Growth and Success
Orlin sees himself, asking his professor for help, as, “An unbathed child asking for soup.” That's a very ashamed--and, hence, powerfully disempowering--image.
And the shame from these kinds of incidents tends to persist, undermining your confidence. Orlin: "It’s surprisingly hard to write about this, even now. Mathematical failure – much like romantic failure – leaves us raw and vulnerable." I myself can still remember my first bad grade--a D in freshman chemistry-- and I once spoke with a 76 year old woman who started crying when she recalled the shame of having been held back in second grade.
Unfortunately, there appears to be no expiration date on unresolved or unhealed traumatic failures. You need to do the work of resolving and healing them.
Orlin: "Teachers have such power. He could have crushed me if he wanted. He didn’t, of course. Once he recognized my infantile state, he spoon-fed me just enough ideas so that I could survive the lecture. I begged him not to ask me any tough questions during the presentation – in effect, asking him not to do his job – and with a sigh he agreed. I made it through the lecture, graduated the next month, and buried the memory as quickly as I could."
Orlin: "Procrastination isn’t just about laziness. It’s about anxiety. To work on something you don’t understand means facing your doubts and confusions head-on. Procrastination pushes back that painful confrontation....
"I tell my story to illustrate that failure isn’t about a lack of “natural intelligence,” whatever that is. Instead, failure is born from a messy combination of bad circumstances: high anxiety, low motivation, gaps in background knowledge. Most of all, we fail because, when the moment comes to confront our shortcomings and open ourselves up to teachers and peers, we panic and deploy our defenses instead. For the same reason that I pushed away Topology, struggling students push me away now.
"Not understanding Topology doesn’t make me stupid. It makes me bad at Topology. That’s a difference worth remembering, whether you’re a math prodigy, a struggling student, or a teacher holding your students’ sense of self-worth in the palm of your hand. Failing at math ought to be like any failure, frustrating but ultimately instructive. In the end, I’m grateful for the experience."
"Just as therapists must undergo therapy as part of their training, no math teacher ought to set foot near human students until they’ve felt the sting of mathematical failure."
Notice how little it really took to get Orlin back on track: a single conversation with a helpful teacher.
The moment you catch yourself procrastinating, or whenever you want to boost your productivity, reach out for help or support---from a teacher or other mentor, a savvy peer or colleague, or me.
In fact, prolific people often round up mentors even before they actually need them.
My thanks to Orlin for permission to quote freely from his work, and reproduce the Moby-us image.